Our first priority when we are born is survival. And survival nowadays includes our relationship with others and with ourselves, but the most important thing of all is our emotional survival.
By the day we are born, we learn certain patterns and behaviors that all have a common goal: how to survive, how to be secure, how to avoid pain, how to seek pleasure etc.
Have you ever thought that the way that you were raised is only one of the many aspects of your personality or your identity?
The important thing here is that we do not define those parameters by ourselves and our own inner wisdom. We define them from external sources such as society, media, other people, religions or government authorities.
If we think about it, step back and observe as objectively as possible, we will realize that it is almost like those beliefs are forced upon us. Like we are being conditioned to think like that.
The meaning we give those old beliefs and perceptions is that, in order to be successful, we have to adhere to them. And in order to be loved we have to obey them.
We condition ourselves from an early age to obey the orders, beliefs and perceptions or points of view of other people. We give too much importance and power to other people’s opinions because we mistakenly consider that this is the only way to be loved and accepted.
Ultimately, we have lost our inner connection and our inner power. We have stopped listening to the little boy or girl that was with us every day in our first few years of life. They are still there, but at some point we stopped allowing them to speak to us.
Observing little children will show you how present they are in everything they do and how passionately they live every day, without concerns for the past or future.
As adults we teach those children and condition them with our perceptions of what is wrong and what is right. What is possible and what is not. What is life and what is not. We taught them a set of rules and behaviors for every aspect of their life.
We never question if those beliefs are right for our life or if we learned them from our parents. We make the assumption they are right and we pass them on to the next generation.
When we start to mistakenly believe false perceptions, our brain will construct all the necessary neural pathways that will support those beliefs. Not only will it support those beliefs; we rewire our neurophysiology to seek information and life experiences to support those false neural connections.
So, if we can wire our brain to think, feel and act according to those false assumptions about our life, then we are guided by those beliefs – subconsciously, emotionally, biologically and neurologically. We create a perception map to match those neuropaths.
As a result we do the same thing every day, thinking that this is the way it should be. We associate with people, places and events that validate those familiar experiences and perceptions.
And even when someone tells us that we can change those beliefs and behaviors, or that we really can rewire our brain, we have bonded with our neural filters and perceptions so much that we do not listen to their suggestions.
We may feel that their suggestions threaten our own beliefs and our way of life. Instead of listening, we prepare to protect ourselves, and we react to new possibilities and new ways of thinking.
We are addicted to our own false perceptions and we do not realize we are addicted. We are addicted to our own emotional patterns of victimization and suffering, of anger, jealousy or comparison. We believe that this is normal in our experience of life.
However, our brain is plastic (brain’s ability to CHANGE throughout life). We can adapt. We can rewire new perceptions and new behaviors. To do that, we have to stop igniting those old neurological patterns. We have to stop igniting those old perceptions, those old tendencies and those old beliefs.
Ultimately this means we have to change. We have to be willing to build new neural pathways to our brain and be willing to build new behaviors, new dreams and new thoughts.